When The Heart Listens

Open Communication is very important in a relationship. Both partner should be open-minded to be able to understand each others feelings, and of course it should be accompanied with a "listening heart". We shouldn't only listen to what your partner says but we must have to feel the heart that talks too.. We have to be sensitive to what he/she feels because when one listens, the feeling gets better and when the heart listens, the love gets stronger.

My boyfriend and I are having a long distance relationship right now,it's hard for us but because of the love we have, we are hopeful and we can't wait to see each other again. Our love is still so strong and alive. Everyday we still feel so inlove despite the distance, though sometimes there are also misunderstandings but we try to talk things over. We don't want to waste our time on things that aren't relevant to our relationship, we throw away the issues that are not worth fighting, we set aside all the negative feelings we feel during our fights, we forgive and we listen to each other. Well, it's all because we value our relationship. One reaon why until now we are still holding on because of our constant communication. We communicate and listen with our hearts not with our temper. We don't want to waste our time on issues that would only break us apart coz we learn to focus only on the things that needs our attention to keep us better.

Recently, we had a worst fight over a nonsense matter so I broke up with him because I over reacted with the issue though it wasn't really a big deal. He asked me to listen to him but I refused so I didn't take heed to his explanations. My heart was covered with hatred. I was been unfair to him because I had become judgmental and faultfinding. I cursed and accused him of the things he didn't do. I forced him to admit it. I know I had hurt him too but my bf just ignored everything. I wanted him to hate me totally so he would let go of his feelings for me but he did things to reach out to me. He didn't want to break our relationship because he knows that he wasn't guilty. He tried his best to fix our problem and even asked for help from our friends. Yeah! and everybody was telling me he loves me so much.. I know he does coz I can really feel it but at that time I was frantic with anger and frustration which made the situation bitter.

For almost 3 days, I was crying and hopeless and even lost my appetite. I was indeed heart broken. No matter what I do, he's still the one that constantly appears on my mind. I tried to cry it all out to avoid the pain but it won't go away and I also tried to release all the unwanted feelings that I was not supposed to feel but the my heart was still aching. I said to myself that I needed to erase him from my mind for me not to feel the hurt anymore so I avoided him. I didn't entertain all his text messages, neglected his apologies and I even told him that I'd changed my number. He was scared to lose me and was begging me to stay even as his friend.. My heart was still closed for an explication and some excuses. I had hated him for the thing I thought he did. The feeling got even worst coz the more I wanted to forget him, the more my heart feels weary. Avoiding him wasn't easy for me and it didn't make the situation any better. It even hurt me more and more. It made me realize that I don't want myself to suffer from a feeling I can't endure. I knew from myself that I don't deserve to feel the heartache which was not yet officially settled. I actualized that losing him is like dying emotionally coz truthfully, I really don't want him walk out from my life, so I guess I was just wasting my time hurting myself on the issue I wasn't even sure of, a nonsensical one that has to be forgotten. These thoughts started to open my heart to seek for the truth.

One night, I couldn't sleep because I was thinking of him, thinking if he was well, if his day was okay, thinking if he was also thinking of me. I texted him just once saying "sleep tight". Oh! I felt like one thorn from my heart has gone. In the morning, when I opened my cp inbox, I read a lot of his messages reminding me that he still loves me no matter what happens. He said he won't stop caring for me and it made me smile (it was actually my heart :)). In the afternoon, I replied to his text and so he did, then it was the start of our confrontation. I texted him coz I want to clarify what really happened. Of course, I bombarded him with a myriad of questions to clear me out from my negative thoughts towards him. He patiently and eagerly answer all of them because he was confident that he did nothing and the issue wasn't true. I felt relieved after he answered positively. Actually when I got his answers, it has pulled out all the thorns from my bleeding heart one by one and the wound it caused slowly disappeared .The fatigue that my heart felt at that moment has revived and then I started to LISTEN TO MY HEART. I began to sense a feeling of forgiveness and it was like my heart's telling me to forget everything and to remember only the LOVE that I have for him. My heart gave in and I finally forgave him. It was such a relief after I had let go all of the hurt feelings that were stuck in me, just then I realized it was only me who was hurting myself because I allowed the negative thoughts to empower me.

As of now, I feel so grateful for the love my bf has shown me. I'm happy that my heart is full of love towards him. We want to keep our communication open, we avoid to be narrow-minded and we try to disremember those unpleasant memories we had. Now, we listen to our hearts, hearts that are both so inlove and full of positive emotions towards each other. HEARTS that LISTEN..So when your hurt, try to feel the beat of your heart. Listen to it closely but you gotta feel the pain first to be able to understand what you deeply feel inside and all else will follow.

I'm so thankful that I'm being loved by the man I love so much and he's showing it the way I wanted it to be. It feels really good, I feel like I have a flying heart, free from heartaches. Hmmm, I really couldn't resist his charms coz he has enamored my heart (",). Everything feels so alright now and above all, we believe that we'll be back in each other's arms again, do things happily together. We are both excited for it, in God's time. We do trust in GOD that He would grant us the desires of our hearts and give us the love we wanted to happen in our relationship. GOD'S heart is the BEST LISTENER after all! =)